F.U.C.K.

Modern day conflict resolution has degenerated into processes far more primitive than when Christ existed. Why so?

Back in the olden days, Plato & Co. used to thrash out their differences in pimped out forums and theaters, with well rehearsed and thought out arguments. Now, we simply hurl our opponents with vulgarities, crude remarks, banana skins, food leftovers, Molotov Cocktails, missiles. Pig heads anyone?

How many times have you been in an argument or conflict, where both ends will end up with bad feelings about another? Worse still, how many of us have seen an argument ending with a vulgarity followed by either party walking off, leaving another bewildered, or even laughing?

To put it simply, modern day conflict resolution has devolved into a form of "emotion exhibition". The skills of reasoning and understanding the other party's perception in the midst of a heated argument have long been "thrown out of the window".

F.U.C.K.

Yes. The four letter verb that ranks sky high in our species' vocabulary.

F - Finish it off nicely. Never walk off with a "BANG!". You may have won the battle, but you might not have won the war. Even if FUCK made your opponent laugh, the conflict is not resolved. You know it.

U - Understand your opponent's viewpoint. We are a reasonable species so there will definitely be rationales for our actions.

C - Communicate. Not only send a message, but be on the receiving end. Listen. Decode the message sensibly.

K - Know the line between personal and work. Kudos to those who believe that arguments can change a person's mindset/mentality. Send my regards to Santa and Rudolph, will you? By separating the problem from the person, real issues can be debated without damaging working relationships. Personal attacks hurt. They do.

F.U.C.K. The golden advice I have for conflict resolution. So in your team, before you decide to hurl It at your team mate, remind yourself of the words, F.U.C.K.

Do you think these points are applicable to all conflict scenarios we encounter in our daily life?